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Should a married woman go out with single friends

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On occasion, my friend must excuse herself to attend to some matter. Most times, the conversation continues without a hiccup and my husband or friend will return within minutes and reignite their contribution to the gathering. Sure, married women can have male friends, but is it the best choice for the long-term health of your marriage? When I meet a new girlfriend that I like, I want to know everything about her.

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Why cut off your single friends just because you got married?

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Are you a married woman with single friends? Are you finding it hard to meet with them or do you find that your relationship is no longer like it used to be before you got married? I do understand. Marriage will always change the dynamics of friendships that existed before.

But should you shut out such friends or not try to develop these relationships? This first part considers what the married woman should know about her single friend. Part two of this series will look at what the single woman should know about her married friend. You may have said or done a few things that hurt your single friend, it may not have been your intention to do so but life happens and sometimes we make a mess of it. You need to get to know yourselves again especially with these new additions to your life — husband and kids.

You will also need to find out what makes your single friend tick and some of the considerations she expects from you. Your life must be so busy, managing your work, your home, your husband and your children. You are definitely superwoman. But how about Lisa, your single friend who you think only has her work and home to worry about? The truth is that we all have responsibilities and have to make the most of the time we have. Marriage can be a beautiful and blissful way of life.

If you feel the urge to introduce your friend, do it in a thoughtful way. Also, think about how she feels about this before you do. She loves your kids, she really does but she may just not want to babysit and you should be willing to accept this. Some single women have mentioned that their conversations with married friends who have kids tend to tilt to requests to babysit. Yes, you are very busy and may not have time to catch up for coffee or lunch at that fancy restaurant you both love.

You should also know that your single friend may not always want to meet with you at your place or when you are with your kids. Deep down she is missing you and would love to spend some time with you. She is still your friend and would like to be there for you in the great and not so great moments. Where you can, let her in. You may be surprised at the support and love you will receive from doing this. From my experience, I have found that the biggest thing that affects our friendships is a lack of communication.

We all need friends. Whether they are single or married and there is no law that says married women should only have married friends or vice versa. What matters most is finding someone that truly understands us and loves us regardless of our foibles. For the married woman, your spouse is paramount but there is always a place for your friend, even a single friend. See Proverbs Please share in the comments.

Thank you. This a great list. Although I have been married for a long time, I was also single for a long time. I relate to both sides of this. When I was single, my married friends could never figure out why I was so busy and so uninterested in meeting with them and their children.

I was in a different stage of life. Hi Erica, thanks for sharing your story and for your kind words. Hmmm… Great insights! I might be guilty of the no. In any case, the list is wonderfully on point. This is sooooo good! I am the single friend among many married friends.

It can be really hard sometimes. I will say 2 is the complete opposite for me and my other single friends. None of our married friends help us out to meet people. We have asked friends to hook us up, do a dinner night…anything to helps these sisters out. I love this! Ever since I got married, I struggled with keeping my friendships thriving, and everything you listed makes complete sense, thank you for that! It takes time and energy on both ends to cultivate those relationships.

Great post, Chioma! I have nothing to add, only to wonder how I am doing in the scale of things are your married friend. I know I have never tried to hook you up or pressure you… And with Babysitting, I only took you up on your offer. I hope I am too. Thank you for your comments. I am married with no kids and always dislike when I was volunteered to babysit or every single activity that was spent with my friends had to involve kids.

This is a wonderful list of reminders about dealing with these kinds of friendships. I know I fell guilty of having my single friend come here mostly when I should have made an effort to meet other places. I had to have a hard conversation with a good single friend once. She recommended that she keep our kids so we could go out for dinner.

This was after she asked me if I was ok with her canceling our plans to chat while she went to see her significant other. I told her that our friendship was important at that moment. That the men in our life needed us to be friends. There is such a balance to stike in these types of relationships. Both parties need to realize that life is not the same for each other and give each other grace no love. I think you have shared some great advice here. Once of my sisters, I have 3, is married with a little boy.

The transition for the four of us has worked because of mutual undertanding and respect. It is the same with our sister times. We know we each have a life and responsiblities. I think the mutual respect in such friendships blood sisters or chosen sisters is key to maintaining and strengthening the relationship. Great post! Hi Juanita, thanks a lot for sharing your story. I love that this transition has worked so well for you and your sisters.

Mutual respect is absolutely critical in our relationships. I relate to both sides of this story. Hello Donna, thank you so much for your kind words. May God help us act from a place of love and respect. Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam.

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Love Life Purpose Disclosures. I hope not. Click To Tweet. Share this: Tweet. Comments Hi Chioma, This a great list. Thank you for making this list and I am looking forward to reading the next part. Hi Whit, thank you for your kind words. Are there other things you could add to the list? Hi Andrea, thanks for your comment.

Please, would you mind sharing how you used to see it?

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I get that she needs to get out and let loose at times. Last weekend, she and her friends went down to Las Vegas for the night. The original plan was just to go down for the evening and come back, but she called late and they decided to spend the night. About half of her friend group is single and half is married, so I wonder if she is relieving some of her single lady days or something.

On occasion, my friend must excuse herself to attend to some matter. Most times, the conversation continues without a hiccup and my husband or friend will return within minutes and reignite their contribution to the gathering. Sure, married women can have male friends, but is it the best choice for the long-term health of your marriage?

Are you a married woman with single friends? Are you finding it hard to meet with them or do you find that your relationship is no longer like it used to be before you got married? I do understand. Marriage will always change the dynamics of friendships that existed before.

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Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. Months ago, on a business trip, a female co-worker and I attempted to meet up with others for drinks, but when everyone else bailed, we decided to still go out. After multiple rounds of drinks, barhopping, and great conversation, I realized we had an intense connection. After the business trip, we continued to talk and meet up for drinks. The feelings got stronger and I shared information with her that I had never told anyone. I felt I could be my genuine self with her, which is a feeling that I have not had in a long time. The way she looks at me still gives me chills as I write this. Great, right?

Should I support my wife going out with friends?

On occasion, my friend must excuse herself to attend to some matter. Most times, the conversation continues without a hiccup and my husband or friend will return within minutes and reignite their contribution to the gathering. Sure, married women can have male friends, but is it the best choice for the long-term health of your marriage? When I meet a new girlfriend that I like, I want to know everything about her.

I really loved her.

Several months before my marriage ended, I had a conversation with a friend who I will call SA no names will be used to protect identities. I had introduced her to her husband and she was in full couples swing while my marriage was suffering. She was concerned about the amount of single friends that I hung out with.

Dear married women with single friends

Acquired habits, such as overspending has been spoken against repeatedly. Of course, it is one thing to speak against something; whether or not any form of social change is being effected by that condemnation is another thing. While we wait for more people to come to accept the sensible option of having wedding ceremonies tailored to their financial capabilities, we might as well begin to tackle another marriage-related issue.

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